The pain of falling in love with the CORRECT person at the WRONG time


When I was 18, I met a boy who changed my life. He opened my eyes to a part of the world and to a part of my life that I did not know existed. That was the first time I fell in love, and it was the deepest love I have ever had. The intensity with which I felt it, I did not think it was possible; Honestly, I did not know that a person could feel so incredibly happy and terribly unhappy at the same time because the relationship, for some reason, can not be.

Finding the right person, with whom you want to spend the rest of your life, is wonderful. However, the sad truth is that that person does not always arrive at the right time. And that makes all the difference.

No one can guarantee that we will NOT run into the right person at the wrong time. You can pass. I am living proof. And I understand that you are thinking that you knew the right person, the person you love, and things work.

We see it in all the movies. The boy knows the girl, they fall in love and live happily ever after. Lies! How wonderful it would be if the world were so simple!

Actually humans are emotionally complicated and because we are emotionally complicated, we make situations complicated. Even if you found the right person, if you are not the right person, the relationship will come to an end. Relationships just fail us because the person you're with turns out to be the wrong one; They also fail when you are not the person you have to be. And if you are still not able to be in a loving relationship, then both are condemned. Most likely, you emotionally bust the person you love.

Even when both people love each other, if one of them is at a point in life where he or she can NOT be a loving and devoted couple, the relationship will not work well. There are so many ways that the relationship fails, that it is incredible that we are not alone!

Many people will make excuses for why they do not find a place in their life, but that is NOT good for a healthy relationship. Some will argue that they need to focus on their careers, that they still want to explore life and spend more time alone before settling; others even convince themselves that the love they have felt for so long is not true love. All are excuses that cover the truth.

The truth is that you can admit to yourself, to yourself, that you are not capable of love, not in the way that another person needs to be loved. And then settle for a kind of love that has nothing to do with a passionate, full of attention and support, full, deep and disinterested, as humanly possible.

When you find the right person, you deliver a part of yourself. You renounce certain things, you make sacrifices and commitments in order to give them to another person. You also give a good part of your life, your dreams, your thoughts and your future.

That is why it is so difficult to admit that you must give up loving a person when you know that you can not be the person he or she deserves to have by their side.

What do you do when you find the right person, but you can not love her as he or she deserves to be loved? If you are not willing to make sacrifices, then there is only one thing you can do: let that person go.

Letting go of a person you love is the hardest decision you can make in your life.

I have not seen or talked to that boy I met almost a decade ago, but I still know that part of me will always love him. And it's OK. It's fine because it's a part of my life. It is a learning experience like no other. Some fall in love with the right person, then find it at the right time.

I just hope you have the strength to keep going, so you do not give up on yourself or yourself. You may have had to give up your relationship with that person, but you can find love again.

You have to believe that you can, that it is possible to find another suitable person and that it happens at the right time. It has happened to many and will happen to many more. You have to believe that it's going to happen for you.

Love is the only purpose for which life is worth living.

Right Person Wrong Time - A True Story (January 2021)