Love is a complicated game for those of us who are independent creatures. As much as we want, we do not want anything at the expense of our careers, our ambitions and, above all, we do not want to lose our freedom. We are the girls who do not want to settle in love. We want to live it, but we do not want to fall into it.
Self-love is not enough to maintain a restless and adventurous spirit. Because we are not only looking for a partner, we are looking for a crime partner. We are not looking for love but someone who can follow our rhythm, as these reasons say.
1. I do not want someone to stop me; I want someone to go ahead with me
My biggest fear is to stop growing. I do not want anything to stop my personal progress.
I see so many relationships in which the two people fall back, that then they have no room to expand. The compelling comforts of love enclose them in a small cozy underworld where two people who were once ambitious simply stop trying: at work, with their bodies, in bed, in their relations of friendship.
Although I like the idea of being comfortable with another human being, lowering my guard and giving up my privacy for the sake of comfort seems to me the metamorphosis of complacency.
I want to be with a person who wants to move always, not just stay still, trapped in a safe routine.
2. I do not want someone to allow me to win; I want someone who is worth fighting for
I do not want someone to allow me to win every argument in order to make their life or my life easier. I want someone who cares enough for me to consider me someone worth fighting for.
3. I am not looking for someone to make me orderly; I want someone who thinks I'm a beautiful disaster
Life is not organized and organized like our perfect departments. In fact, life is pretty dirty, and I want someone to accept my imperfections and to unwind in the whirlwind of life, instead of just fighting against it.
4. I do not want someone to hear me; I want someone to listen to me
I crave a real connection. A deep connection, not just kind words. I do not want someone to tell me the little things I want to hear. I want someone to listen to me.
There is a big difference between hearing a person and listening to them. Hearing is on the surface (anyone can hear another person throw words). But listening requires effort. Listening is being connected. It is a process of two that means being able to look the other person in the eyes and allow words not only to be processed in the ears, but to resound in your heart.
5. I do not want someone who is exactly like me; I want someone to reveal a different side of my personality
I do not want to go out again with a carbon copy of myself. I already know how it works. I want to be with someone who is different. Someone whose strengths complement mine because we see life from different angles.
I want to be with someone who inspires me to explore all the parts of myself that I did not know existed. How could I do that with a person who works exactly like me?
6. I do not want someone to settle with me; I want someone to live adventures with me
I have an instantaneous reaction to the word settle: a pain deep in my stomach. Why would he want to do it for nothing?
I have always been the kind of girl who not only has big dreams, but also has the ability to get what she wants and get an intense pleasure from it.
For me, love is not about getting settled, on the contrary, I want it to be an adventure. And for that I must find the person who has the guts and ambition to travel the world by my side.
Just because you fall in love does not mean that the excitement and infinite wonder that the world offers must end. In fact, the passion for travel should intensify when it is nourished with sensuality.
7. I do not want routine; I want love
I do not want every day to be exactly the same. I do not want to have the same conversations about the same food every night for the rest of my life.
I want a burning passion that ignites the fire that inside me. I want to be with someone who blows my heart and whose touch can illuminate my whole body.