I am a person who thinks too much, and I have been since childhood, but now it is more serious. My brain is always moving 20 steps forward from my current situation: I see the end before something even really begins.
I hate not having control of the situation. Imagine the bad things that will probably happen and analyze the impossible to know. But the most serious thing is that thinking too much not only affects me but also the people with whom I live. Sometimes I get depressed, and so many ideas in my head cause my memory to be deficient; I have trouble making decisions In summary, I am not living my present.
1. Sometimes I believe in problems that do not exist
I can excessively analyze something so far away that I can create a problem in my head that does not really exist. I can take a little comment and revise it in my mind so many times that I forget even the original comment. That erodes me. And I do not say anything because
2. I'm worried that saying something creates another problem
When it comes to people, I often review comments that have been made to me and then I am stuck thinking about all the possible scenarios and the results, and I imagine conversations before they happen, when it is likely that they will not even happen.
I have learned from experience that elaborating conversations in my own head always leads to a What are you talking about? And that is not remotely what I wanted to say.
3. I constantly need others to calm me down
Every time I'm having a really big problem and I go with my friends to ask their opinion saying that I feel like I'm going crazy and I'm nervous, they usually answer me: You need to calm down. You are making a storm in a glass of water.
Nine times out of 10, they are right. Those of us who think too much about everything, need to be told to calm down. If not, we just buried ourselves more and that's not fun.
4. I suffer from insomnia
They say that when our mind is constantly on the move, it is difficult to turn it off without having help sleeping. We can spend hours spinning once our head touches the pillow. And just when we are about to fall asleep, a thought comes to our mind.
When I decide to go to bed, the dream disappears. Any distraction affects me and puts me on alert. I sleep badly, but if the next day I get tired, I get distracted thinking!
5. I can be a bit unbearable sometimes
Throughout my life, I have discovered that when I allow myself to think too much, I become a problem, I can be unbearable and a little difficult.
My friends get upset, my family gets angry and my boyfriend has to take care of what he says when I'm upset. It's not something I like: who wants to be the person who offends or annoys someone with the slightest comment?
Being present is one of the most important lessons I have learned recently. We, the compulsive thinkers, need to stop and look at what we are doing and where we are at this moment. Only at this moment. A friend told me that I was continually missing the past or worrying about the future, and it's true. Everything will be better if we only take things hour by hour, day by day, week by week.
We have to keep our feet on the ground. Accept our lack of control and deal with it. This is only possible if we trust in life. If we focus on having our hearts and minds fixed on what we want. We can take all that negative thought produced by our mind and make it positive by imagining what we want and how to get it.