We often believe that we must constantly be doing, trying, experiencing things in order to maximize our success and happiness. However, the things we do are not always the ones that make a difference in our life; Often the things we avoid doing are the ones that have the greatest effect. As human beings, we have an aversion to not doing this or that; We believe that there must be an initial action to produce results.
However, because we are almost always doing something, and something more and more, the effect is negative rather than positive. Mentally strong people avoid several actions in order to produce a greater benefit in the shortest possible time.
This is what mentally strong people do NOT do, which we should consider adopting as ours:
1. Living in the past
Mentally strong people focus on the present moment and the near future. They understand that the past is out of reach and that the distant future is unpredictable, like the weather this summer.
2. Stay in your comfort zone
The comfort zone is a dangerous place, a dark abyss in which anyone who stays for a long time is lost. Staying within your comfort zone is giving up life.
3. Ignore the opinions of others
Only fools believe they are good at everything. An idea is a good idea no matter if it occurred to you or not. That your ego is not bigger than you: if someone has a good advice to give you, take it.
4. Avoid the change
What mentally strong people know and others do not, is that change is inevitable. There is no point in avoiding the inevitable, and trying to avoid change is a waste of energy and time.
5. Have a closed mind
You do not know everything. Even the things you think you know probably are not entirely true. If you keep a closed mind, you are preventing yourself from learning new things, and if you stop learning, you stop living.
6. Allow others to make decisions for you
Only you can make your own decisions; You can not allow others to do it for you. All this does is transfer your responsibility to another person, but in the end, who ends up failing is you. If you do not have the courage to fail, then you do not have the courage to succeed.
7. Be jealous of the success of others
Rejoice when others succeed. If they can do it, you can too. The success of others will in no way diminish your own chances of having it. In any case, that should motivate you to move forward in achieving your goals.
8. Think about the possibility of failing
Our thoughts control our perspective; Our perspective controls our results. Mentally strong people understand this and use it to their advantage. There is always the possibility that you can fail, but there is always the possibility that you will succeed too. It's worth a try.
9. Feeling sorry for yourself
Bad things always happen. Life can be difficult. People hurt other people. Some die. Life is not all rosy. You will fall off the horse again and again, but they say that in order to lose your fear you have to reassemble right away. Are you strong enough to try again?
10. Concentrate on your weaknesses
Although working on our weaknesses has its benefits, it is more important to focus on our strengths. Although someone successful is not who goes further in life, it is true that being average in everything makes you average, so it is important to master certain skills or traits that allow you to overcome the competition with less effort.
11. Try to please people
A job well done is a job well done, no matter who judges the final product. You can not please everyone, but you can always do your best.
12. Blaming yourself for things that are out of your control
Mentally strong people know the things they can control; They know when they can do it. They understand when they do not, and avoid even thinking about what is completely out of their reach.
13. Be impatient
Patience is not a virtue: it is the virtue. Most people do not fail because they are not good enough or because they are unable to succeed. Most fail because they are impatient and give up before their time.
14. Being misunderstood
Communication is key for any system to work properly. When it comes to people, things become more complicated. Simply giving information is never enough; if the receiver does not understand you it is because you did not give him the message correctly. Mentally strong people seek to express themselves clearly, and have the patience to clear up misunderstandings.
15. Feel that (whoever) is in debt to you
Nobody owes you anything in this life. You were born; The rest is up to you. Life does not owe you anything. The others do not owe you anything. If you want something in life, you owe it to yourself to get it.
16Making the same mistakes
Making a mistake once, that's fine. Making a mistake twice is not so good. If you do it for the third time you should consider moving away from alcohol and drugs. Seriously: either you're stupid, or you're under the influence of some drug.
17. Do not face your fears
The world can be a scary place. Some things scare us, and it's natural, but most of our fears are irrational. If you know you have to try something, try it. If you are afraid, remember that being afraid of failure means that being successful means a lot to you.
18. Act without thinking
Mentally strong people know that they should not act before fully understanding the situation. If you have time to reflect and cover all its aspects, then do it. Not doing it is pure laziness and it will not benefit you at all.
19. Do not allow the help of others
You are not Superman; you can not do everything Even if you could, why should you? If others offer to help you, accept it. Be sociable Listen to their ideas and see how they do things. You can learn something. If not, then you can teach them something and do what human beings have a purpose: to socialize.
20. Throw in the towel
The greatest weakness of human beings is giving up, abandoning, leaving, throwing in the towel. This also happens to mentally strong people, but they try to do the following: just do things if they are important to you; forget about those that do not. Those important things, pursue them until you get them. Without exceptions.